Friendship

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.




Do you still remember the first time you fell in Love? I do, so clearly, as it happened yesterday. I was 13 and here he was - handsome, funny, popular and 14 years old. And he swept me off my feet - I was secretly in love with him until I was 18 and finally gathered enough courage to talk to him... And what a different person he was, once I got to know him... Like we lived in two separate worlds - we had nothing in common... So what is Love? Is it the chemistry, is it the type that attracts us or is it just lust and passion? No one will ever know... That is why Love will remain forever evasive muse that will tease with all her cruel force...

Friendship, on the other hand, is less glamorous, but yet so important glue that keeps relationships alive... Friendship, genuine one, lasts a Lifetime and once the connection is there, no one can take it away from you, it does not dye off... I grew up a single child and do not know what having a Sister or a Brother means, but I know what having a true Friend means. When I left my country 11 years ago, I thought I lost all my friends there - but we still are as connected, as if I have never left. I thought I will never have meaningful friendships here - and I discovered wonderful people whom I know and care for over 10 years now... I have known my Husband for 7 years and we still have so many things to tell each other every day, we still can carry a long and great conversation... I can honestly say, that he is my true Friend and I know I will miss his friendship more than anything, if we were ever part ways.

When I met Sasha and Andrew, they were in Love - of course they were - they were getting married! However, I could just tell by looking at them that they will grow old together - they completed each other. And not in that "opposites attract" way - I could just tell that even in 50 years they will still be able to have fun together and will have so many things to talk about over a glass of wine at the end of the day.

I always feel so bad when I see middle aged couples at the restaurant, sitting at the table and expecting waitress to entertain them, because they have nothing to say to each other. Love and passion subside over the years and only those feel happy together, who remain true and great friends.